{"id":4965,"date":"2021-05-17T03:01:26","date_gmt":"2021-05-17T11:01:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/?p=4965"},"modified":"2021-05-17T03:01:26","modified_gmt":"2021-05-17T11:01:26","slug":"mindful-monday-how-do-we-cope-with-the-loss-of-a-beloved-cat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/?p=4965","title":{"rendered":"Mindful Monday \u2013 How Do We Cope With the Loss of a Beloved Cat?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-4846\" src=\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/VirginiaKitten-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/VirginiaKitten-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/VirginiaKitten-500x376.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/VirginiaKitten-768x577.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/VirginiaKitten-1536x1154.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/VirginiaKitten-rotated.jpg 1544w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Anyone who embraces a cat will suffer loss. The fact is that we outlive our cats. We know it and we <strong>still<\/strong> rescue them, bring them into our homes and our hearts, and love them with everything we have. When it comes time for that cat to go across the rainbow bridge we hurt something fierce. It\u2019s an awful ache. We feel the loss with every fiber <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-4522\" src=\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/kittenpurrsy-300x225.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/kittenpurrsy-300x225.png 300w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/kittenpurrsy-500x375.png 500w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/kittenpurrsy.png 595w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>of our being. We cry, we my throw a tantrum or two, we might even experience visits from the cat, feel her jump up onto the bed at night, glimpse her walk into the room, feel her rub gently against your leg. You talk about her, commiserate with others who understand your pain, create visual remembrances, light candles\u2026 I still display pictures of Lily, who died a year ago yesterday. Heck, I still display pictures and things that remind me of Katy\u2014who died in 2004, and Max and\u2026 Oh yes, we don\u2019t let go easily. That hole we felt upon losing the <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-4966\" src=\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/OliviaLily1-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/OliviaLily1-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/OliviaLily1-375x500.jpg 375w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/OliviaLily1-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/OliviaLily1-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/OliviaLily1-rotated.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/>precious cat is filled with remnants of her or him.<\/p>\n<p>To help myself and those of you reading this, I did a little research to find out how others cope with this sort of loss. Here are some suggestions:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Talk about her with people who understand the loss of a pet.<\/li>\n<li>Allow the feelings\u2014honor them.<\/li>\n<li>Write about her.<\/li>\n<li>Choose one symbol of remembrance to display.<\/li>\n<li>Plant a tree or a garden in her memory.<\/li>\n<li>Create a ritual around her beautiful life.<\/li>\n<li>Read self-help books and articles on the process of grief.<\/li>\n<li>Realize it may take time to heal, and know you will never forget.<\/li>\n<li>Donate to an organization meaningful to you in her name.<\/li>\n<li>Consider loving another cat\u2014when it is time.<\/li>\n<li>Don\u2019t forget the other pets in your household. They could be hurting too.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Anyone who embraces a cat will suffer loss. The fact is that we outlive our cats. We know it and we still rescue them, bring them into our homes and our hearts, and love them with everything we have. 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