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A major reason we adopt a cat is for the comfort they can bring and for most of us a big part of that is the cuddle-snuggle factor. Right? But the truth is that cats aren\u2019t necessarily snuggle-cuddle beings. Remember, they\u2019re aloof and want to be left alone. Not always, thank heavens.<\/p>\n
Sure a cat seems to crave her alone time\u2014![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/LilyCatFace1-e1584701700781-225x300.jpg\")
don\u2019t we all? But many of them also adore curling up or sprawling across a warm lap, or even just initiating a good scratching behind the ears.<\/p>\n
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Lily had her moments when she loved cuddling, but mostly, she just wanted to be near me, at my feet\u2014at least within eyeball distance. Most cats I\u2019ve had want affection on their own terms. Isn\u2019t that the way of the cat? But what if you end up with a cat or a kitten that doesn\u2019t want any part of handling? Did you know that this is usually a learned behavior? That\u2019s one of the dangers of rescuing cats\u2014first, you don\u2019t know their background\u2014how much snuggle experience![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/KittensTiger-300x171.jpg\")
they had. Second, many abandoned cats or kittens come with aversion to being handled. But all is not necessarily lost. Here are a few tips.<\/p>\n
Let the cat choose the time, place, and manner of affection. Go with her whims. If she comes to you and rubs against your leg while you\u2019re working out or knitting or paying bills or scrolling through your texts\u2014stop it. ![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.matilijapress.com\/catscapades\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/catorangebeingheld-e1573644771607-225x300.jpg\")
Sit and spend quality time with your cat when she wants it.<\/p>\n
Reinforce snuggle behavior with treats. Make these short, brief encounters at first<\/p>\n
Know that cats can change. An aloof cat can become a snuggle bunny. Sometimes cats are more affectionate in the cooler months. In fact, I always felt that Lily took advantage of my lap in winter when I wore my cozy robe. She rarely curled up in my lap in summer. Smart!<\/p>\n
Some breeds are more affectionate than others, so if you want a lap cat choose accordingly. \u00a0And follow the cats lead. If all she wants is a chin tickle or neck scratches, be generous with those methods of affection. Some cats shun the lap, but adore a full-body petting. Here\u2019s a site with additional information about cats and cuddling.<\/p>\n
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